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Bio - with a focus on My Life Experiences ...

In the many years  of giving Sensuous yet Focused Relaxation Massage - my motivations or enthusiam for what I offer - comes from my strong passion for the Sensuous Relaxation and Meditative aspects of Massage with Men in Mind  - and ths in a manner of speaking softly blends with my drawing energy for Massage from the many personal experiences over my lifetime ...  many of which have been experienced by my clients in their own lives - So below I take a bit of time to portray these in an open and honest yet giving a broader picture of these - with a strong focus on the years since I began this holistic touch journey ... as I believe these years have the strongest influence on why I carry on with Massage with the same passion I have always had for what I do.

 

Such as ...

Before I started offering Massage  - I was married for almost 20 years  - from which I have 2 beautiful daughters who are now adults out there in the world on their own right ... the youngest spending all of her 13 school years on a 50 / 50 basis between both of her homes until a year after she finished High School  ...  at which time I kind of became an empty nester - while adjusting to living on my own for the first time in many years - I'm tnink I will always be adjustng. ​

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All through the years of marriage - I was in Hospitality Managment - working my way up to runnning a boutique hotel in New Plymouth for a couple of years - to jointly owning a prominent Cafe -also in New Plymouth - (I am from NPL - but have lived in Auckland for over 30 + years and only moved back to NPL around the Millennium years for a short time specifically for a Hotel Management Position)  - then soon after moving back to Auckland way back in the early 2000's - I took on what I consider the largest position I have held in my Hospo Career - Operations Manager NZ of a 31 strong Franchise Cafe Chain - reporting to Gold Coast Austraila  - I covered NZ from Christchurch to Auckland and everywhere in between - It was while I was there when only a few years in - my marriage ended - (a result of both our high flying jobs requiring so much travel that it quickly created a distance between us - (rather than my bisexuality as most people  seem to think) -  at that time my youngest was only 3 yrs old so her mum and I started sharing a well balanced custody arrangement working strongly together to ensure our daughter was well cared for despite both of our extensive employment roles.

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Coming Out (not my favourite term) at the age of 44 - (soon after my marriage ended and while I was working in the NZ Operations Role) - and after some initial hiccups in how I felt - for which to help clarify for me - I did a few counselling sessions and joined workshops with Outline in Auckland - and then ended up doing a couple of years on their Telephone Help Lines - plus tried to start a GayDads group which didn't take off at all.  Took me a further year to make it known to all of my family and close friends - as by then I was finally feeling comfortable in my  own skin - and I never looked back.  Worthy of noting here - is my father accepted my sexuality with open arms and our bond grew stronger - my mother not so much and what was a very close relationship became distant and still is to this day. 

 

Then a few years on - my Australian based boss came to me and said - "Glenn we need you to restructure NZ  - we have bought another Company in NZ and need to merge all roles."   So after a decade of travelling both here in NZ and into Sydney - The Gold Coast (Brisbane and Southport ) and Melbourne on a constant basis - (there was a 2 month period - when I had a 2 week holiday in Malaysia - came home - flew back 4 days later to Southport for a 2 day conference - came home for 4 days - flew back to Sydney for Mardi Gra - flew home and then spent a week in Christchurch !  - Based on that period alone I decided it was time for me to spend some time just grounding myself and plant my feet firmly on the ground for a while - so as to reset "me" and be the parent I needed to be at that time - so I put myself on top of the Redundancy List - oollected a healthy $ package and took a few months off - initially doing some refresher workshops in Natural Health - my other life interest and as I had the Diploma in Massage from way back when  - I did a couple of refresher workshops and started offering Massage on a full time basis in 2011 - Since then I never looked back - best decision I have made in a very very long time - the flexibility and the calm it brought to life  - especially in being a half-time parent with such ease - equalled both the Massage and the halfparent gig - being the most rewarding things I have ever done. 

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A parent and far to many close family members and friends passing over  - simply put - too early - 4 in the year 2013 alone - that was a tough year. 

 

Soon after my father passed away @ Xmas 2013 - I meet my now ex partner - which - I can now openly describe as - my largest Trauma based Lifetime event - and that was living within an emotionally  - manipulating / volitile and sexually abusive same sex relationship - so much so that it was a long while after "he" finally left in early 2020 that I realised the full extent of what had occured - as his leaving literally the weekend before we went into the 1st Covid Lockdown meant my mindset wasn't in the right space to think to much about any form of what had happened during those 6 years - as like every single person in the world I was suddenly in covid chaos - inclusive of my daughter being in amongst the 1st Covid Cluster as a pupil @ Marist College a week ahead of the lockdown - to sorting out the roof over my head and thinking about how I was going to navigate this period of time as we went into the Lockdown and well business simply wasn't going to be thing for who knew how long -  That 1st Lockdown became a godsend for me - as it gave me time to slowdown and think  - while bringing a calm back to me  - allowing me to put a plan of action in place so once that lockdown ended and I could take my time in restarting Massage - while beginning to slowly find myself and rebuild life again - but instead once life resumed kind of normal - the reality of what actually occured during the relationship hit like a ferocious storm and instead of seeking help then - I threw myself into things that would take my mind off "him" so as to create a mindset to try and bury the events of that occured during the relationship - so with a very young life attitude and a very fit and healthy body back then - especially for someone in their early to mid 50's - I took on an attitude of - "F#ck you to him" and I promptly buried myself into my old fitness freak self - such as daily gym Twice a week PT sessions & almost daily spin bike sessions - plus when I took a day off - it often resulted in a full day's bike ride -literally hours and hours escaping from reality - add in  - a short term full on sexual relationship (that is all it was) - which developed into some ummm I'll just say hardcore risky behaviour - all while hiding the reality of what was going on from family / friends - and then in early 2021  - an opportunity was presented that enabled a move that meant it could - just be me and my youngest daughter - no flatmates or partners  - and finally slow life down again and get some much needed just bliss moments for me ! 

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Then around the middle of 2022 - my body suddenly began to slow down  - more and more each passing day - with what seemed to be a daily decrease in energy  -which as a result of full body pain & increasing loss of Muscle Strength got stronger - not to mention a heavy fatigue and a 100% loss of libido  - all this came on fast - and as a result - it was difficult to do regular work outs  / Spin sesh's and do as much massage as I need to to LiveLoveLife - so with the full Guidance and Support of my Doctor - many medical tests occured over the last half of 2022 - from MRI's - Ultra Sound Scans - to regular monthly blood tests  - that all simply kept coming up Negative -  all while constantly getting told in reality - they couldn't figure out what was going on especially considering how fit and healthy I was for my age - and then December of 2022 a simple conversation with one specialist quickly lead to an urgent referral to a Rheumataology Specialist - and within that Appointment a Diagnosis was given of Chronic Fibromyalgia  - which I was advised is caused by very long periods of emotional Trauma and or Major Accidents / Surgery etc  - plus in some part - Covid itself may have had a bearing on it  - so this made sense - 6 years of a voiltile relationship - a serious Car Accident I had in my 30's which landed me in hospital for a little while - a couple of minor surgery's and a few other Trauma based life events over the years - had all contributed to the strain on the Body's Auto-Immune / Nervous System - with my body simply reaching a point of no return and suddenly telling me to reduce the noise and live a calm life - something I now fully understand and live by every single day. 

 

Soon after the the diagnosis  - I had reached a point where I had to take a long look @ life and create a path to slowing every aspect of it down - while trying to maintain the business levels I needed to livelovelife  - as with each week that passed - I was going slower - quickly leading to having to make one of the toughest decisions I had - had to face in a long time - and that was to close my fulltime Massage business - ManificoBody and take some time off  - which I did around Easter of 2023 - taking off to Housesit around the North Island for just over a year - so as to learn to live within the much slower pace of life that was now - The Fibromyalgia  - before it got worse and stopped me from being able to  - LiveLoveLife altogether. 

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Soon after closing - It was recommended by the Rheumatology Specialist  - that I have Pain Management Counselling with their Psychologist - as the condition affects the Body's Muscle Fibers causing full body heavy aches and weakness on a constant basis at massively fluctuating levels - so I needed to re-train my mindset to match the now required much lower energy output levels of my body  - so as to cease the daily energy crashes and back then constanlty increasing pain - and it was while having the Pain Management Counselling  - that the relationship stuff came to the fore again in leaps and bounds - leading to the Psychologist recommending that I have Counselling with a sole focus on the Relationship and the now known Sexual Abuse that had occured over the Relationship period - so I attended both a workshop and weekly counselling sessions @ Burnett Foundation over most of 2024 - something I am so grateful for as it has massively cleared my mind of  - not just the relationship trauma - but of all life events.  I now regulary volunteer @ The Burnett Foundation on the Condom / Testing Kit packing evenings - which are a heap of fun with a bunch of like mind Queer people. 

 

These days - I now recognise all the symptoms of both the Fibromyalgia and the relationship stuff -  and when these occur - I know how to manage these well enough  - like simply doing things like  - meditate or just get out into nature - both are abouot calming my body - so  I can once again go about my day to day  - so I guess in a manner of speaking - this equals me no longer do anything with excess and this in a nutshell is why I now only offer Massage on a casual basis. 

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Fast forward to now - I can say without reservation - that I do not consider that any of the above solely dictates who I am or how I LiveLoveLife or go about my day to day - these all only form a small part of me - and yes they may have changed my view point a little on life going forward particularly how I live by my new Mantra - SLOWDOWNPAPI but LIVELOVELIFE - but the further along I go in my own life journey - the more I believe  - that the more I allow myself to give focus to my Physical Body and Mindfulness Energy - in a calm manner and as I go about my general day to day - the more I am able to follow my Mantra - and the more I give focus to things such as sensuous Mindfulness Touch based Relaxation Sessions or similar sensuous connective style body touch like Yoga - Meditation - Sensuous based Massage and even Sensuous Tantric or Sexual Connections - and  - by changing my focus on things like exercise and socialising along with food and alcohol  - which when compared to what was my strong and possibly excessive fitness / diet and sexual regime prior to the medical diagnosis - is now one of a more mindfulness focus and not how my body looks focus - the more my mindset adjusts to allow myself to delve into my sensuous self -  like I used to before the relationhship trauma occured  while bringing a calmness to my inner spirit ...

 

 ... and for me - that now  - by far outweighs the need to earn $$$ aspect of why I offer in Massage - especially now that  I don't need to make a living as such just from Masaage and overall that fits well within my Personal Living Mantra... SlowDownPapi - but LiveLoveLife. 

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Take some time for you  - with the  - EnigmaticBodyMassage and simply ... 

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relax ... relax ... relax .... 

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Namaste 

Glenn. ​​​​

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