Eroticism isn't always about Arousal and or reaching an orgasm.

To me - it's important that people - especially men - take the time to learn to detangle the concept of eroticism from the act of Arousal and or the act of reaching an Orgasm - granted it is a learned experience but once mastered - its a very satisfying experience - especailly when you transfer it to a sexual liason or when masturbating.

I can enjoy either or of these for an hour or 2 - and if there is a good sensuous connection with a sexual partner - I often do not have the need to cum @ all - but I can have a feeling of complete calmness and satisfaction - that is quite erotic.

Once this concept is mastered - I find that erotic experiences don't just happen when masturbating or having sex - the sensation of eroticism - can happen in a store - in an art gallery - on the street - or anywhere you are tuned in to your own fantasies.

I find that the joy of seeing eroticism this way - is that every time I go outside my apartment - I am open to the possibility of an encounter in some form of engagement with the world that lights my inner senuousness on fire and that is erotic.

Like flirting with a handsome man on the street or engaging with erotic art - I find can be more satisfying than a quick jerk off before bed.

I have to admit - that these days - I don't masturbate or hook up as often as I used to - because for me - it is not the only way I "get off" or enjoy an erotic encounter.

But when I do masturbate - I take my time and enjoy my whole body and explore my most sensitive parts - like my nipples - just as much as my Lingam - or use sex toys - playing so as to delay cumming for as long as my energy allows - and likewise when I meet a sexual partner - I prefer to explore and discover their sensuousness while being vocal about my own - for as long as this connection allows - I find for me - this can add to the whole eroticism - and simply put - it makes for a far more passionate encounter.

In many ways - eroticism is a reason - I include Lingam Touch in Massage - as to me - its a way of beginning - what is in a manner of speaking a learned teaching in this important topic - as in during a naturally sensuous touch moment.